​Better communication and less arguments.

You come home after a long day at work. All you want is some peace and quiet. Within 5 minutes, you and your partner are having a fight again. This could be about anything; the upbringing of the children, money, the household chores, the in-laws, etc. This is happening more and more often, and you are both so tired of it. You want to finally break this pattern of poor communication and recurring arguments.  

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No more intimacy and/or sex.

When you just met, you couldn't keep your hands off each other. After a few months it became less but nothing to worry about. However, today you can't remember the last time you made love. That was months or maybe even years ago. Apart from a kiss on the cheek, there is no intimacy left in the relationship. If you go to bed at the same time, which doesn't happen often, no initiative has been taken for a long time. The person who often took the initiative in the past has given up after too many rejections. Now, he/she feels angry, frustrated and desperate because of the lack of sex and intimacy and sometimes even wonders whether the other person still loves him/her. Meanwhile, the other partner mainly wonders where his/her libido has gone. Why he/she never feels aroused anymore. He/she feels guilty and fears for the future of the relationship. Because you do love each other, you stay together. Perhaps the fact that you have kids also plays a role. But you are not happy in the relationship. Without intimacy, the relationship feels empty and lonely. You both long to feel that intimate connection from the start again. But how? The gap simply feels too big to bridge.

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Emotional or sexual infidelity.

One of you has cheated and thereby violated the trust of the other partner. There are questions such as: Why did my partner cheat? Was this the first time? The partner that cheated may wonder why this happened. The foundation of trust, safety and security you had in the relationship is gone. What remains are feelings of sadness, guilt, shame, powerlessness and defeat. Does this mean the end of the relationship? Or is there a way to deal with this together? 

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The sex is fine but could be more exciting. 

Your sex life has been the same and fairly predictable for years. You know exactly what your partner likes and what you like. There is still regular sex, and the sex is ok, if not a bit boring. You are always left with the feeling that there should be more, right? Couldn't it be more pleasurable and exciting? More adventurous? And if yes, how? Do you have to open the relationship up to third parties? Experiment with toys? Explore with sexuality based on Tantra? Sex parties? You and your partner want to go on an adventure but have no idea how to start.

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Staying connected during stress, pain and illness.

When you suffer from illness, severe stress or pain, (physical) intimacy is often the last thing you desire. At times you feel terribly guilty, especially if it takes a long time, but it feels like there's nothing you can do about it. Meanwhile, your partner feels increasingly lonely. He/she is over-burdened, is missing intimacy and feels that he/she has to put his/her own needs aside. Talking about it at all only results in frustration and a sense of powerlessness. You long to be able to reconnect and talk about your needs and desires, even in these challenging times.

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He suffers from premature ejaculation. 

Within seconds of starting penetration, you ejaculate. Sometimes you already ejaculate before entering. You see the disappointment on the face of your partner and that makes you feel terrible. There's guilt and you wonder what is wrong with you. Ejaculating this quick isn't normal, right?! The more often this happens, the worst it seems to get. When you masturbate you often do have more control but whatever you try, you can't seem to last longer. You feel hopeless and desperate. You want to have more control over your ejaculation so you and your partner can have more pleasure.  

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She experiences painful penetration.

As soon as he enters you, it hurts. Sometimes it starts ok but after a few minutes you notice the pain. Instead of expressing this, you often hope that he will orgasm as quickly as possible so that it is over, and the pain stops. Sometimes you even fake an orgasm because you know it will make him come faster. You feel broken and alone. You don't want to tell him it hurts for fear of hurting his feelings. You tell yourself that it's not so bad. After all, it's only once a week (or less, if you manage to avoid it for longer). Besides, sex (and especially penetration) is part of a good relationship, right?  Yet, you notice that you are getting less and less in the mood for sex and that you are increasingly avoiding it. Is there a way to find pleasure in sex again? It feels very far away. 

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There are other relationship problems than those mentioned above.

In that case you are also very welcome for a free exploration call where we discuss whether or not I am the right person to support your relationship.    

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